A moment of reflection is available at any time of the day or night, without a pen and paper, smartphone or computer. Too often we find ourselves reacting to life according to the old admonition “don’t just stand there do something” when it would probably be better to just stand here doing nothing.

A moment of reflection is the ability to step back, breathe, and consider our thoughts, enabling us to be proactive or responsive rather than reactive. 

First, we might consider our thoughts, an effective litmus test is where is my thinking emanating from:


Concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.


A disposition to defraud or deceive either by omission or commission


A concern of losing what one has or not getting what one wants


Indignant displeasure or persistent ill will as a result of either a perceived or actual wrong, insult, or injury

Second, we can ask for the right words and take the appropriate action?

Right words might be found if I T.H.I.N.K. before I speak.

Is it Thoughtful?

Is it Honest?

Is it Inspiring?

Is it Necessary?

Is it Kind?

Appropriate actions are when we demonstrate:

 Patience, Tolerance, Kindliness, and  Love.

A deeper dive into a moment of reflection would have us reflect on our motives and decide if they are ego/self-driven or if they come from a place of goodness and giving. The moment of reflection suggests practicing restraint in how we address the issue at hand. We are urged to see others as we see ourselves; stressed, sometimes self-absorbed and not really capable of rising above the level of human beings. We are reminded to admit where we are wrong and as hard as it might seem, forgive others for their wrongs wherever possible.

Taking a moment of reflection is a matter of consciousness, of not getting caught up in the crisis, but rather taking action before it occurs. Sometimes we need a reminder, it might be as simple as seeing a meme with an inspirational saying, a bumper sticker, or a wedding band. One particular reminder, we highly recommend is The Serenity Bracelet that inspired this site and our   EMERGING vs Abandoning Survey. Whatever it takes, to find something that will remind us to take a moment of reflection; will enhance the quality of our lives, our relationships, and the SERENITY we seek.